Have you ever felt that nagging feeling, that dull heaviness in your heart, when you feel you have betrayed yourself? When you are not able to muster the courage to stand up and speak for yourself. Or when your inner voice stops you from spoiling the moment, the family dinner, the relationship, the meeting…
That is a moment when we smother our inner voice. The voice of our soul. The voice of our values. The voice of our dignity. And with every such choice when we quieten it, it becomes weaker. It nurtures resentment and becomes frustrated. Our worthiness weakens, causing us to settle for lesser than what we deserve. Remember, we teach people how to treat us.
So should we get confrontational? No, don’t infuse more negative energy into an already negative zone. But learn to stand up for yourself. You owe yourself the most beautiful and most dignified life. Don’t deny yourself that for too long. It could snap hard and recoil.
Ways to stand up for yourself in toxic situations:
Walk away from the moment, the room, the meeting or the event. Excuse yourself and take a moment away from the situation. Walking away helps us distance ourselves from the situation. It might get awkward, but it will help you uphold your dignity and send a strong message.
These situations paralyse us emotionally and it is difficult to choose the right responses. Build a list of such situations, create strong responses, and practice in front of the mirror, in the shower, or in your private time. Practice helps you bleed less in war.
Choose expression to protect not vent
Diginity demands a dignified approach. Don’t beg for it, express your thought by distancing yourself from it and protect yourself. So instead of saying,”I will not take this humiliation anymore!”try saying, “This was quite a humiliating tone!”
It’s important that we express what we feel and confront the person/group of people. Find an appropriate time to schedule a meeting or chat. Express yourself neutrally, without drama. And seek a platform for mutual understanding. But remember, do it peacefully.
Celebrate every milestone. Every time you say no. Every time you walk away. Every time you find the courage. Every time your soul or values thank you.
Live empowered. Start Today!
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